Rising Above Self-Doubt: Transforming Shame into Embracing Confidence


On this show…we are striving for a different vantage point as we rise above self-doubt, transforming shame into embracing confidence. According to a YouGov survey in 2018, about 50% of people reported experiencing self-doubt in their daily lives. That’s a whole lot of insecurity. Is that what you see plastered all over social media…vulnerability? Just another clue that what you see on the surface may not indicate what is really going on under the water. Add in that shame reinforces self-doubt and self-doubt increases shame and you have a tangled web to unwind. 

Self-doubt can create real challenges, both personally and professionally. It makes you doubt your abilities and holds you back from growing and achieving your full potential. At work, it stops you from taking on new projects or going for that promotion because you’re convinced you’re not good enough. This constant second-guessing can lead to major stress, anxiety, and even depression, making life a lot harder than it needs to be. It can also interrupt your relationships, as you struggle to trust others and communicate effectively. In the end, self-doubt becomes a vicious cycle that keeps you from living your best life.

I seek strength, not to be greater than others, but to fight my greatest enemy, the doubts within myself.

Can you pinpoint when self-doubt crept in and wrecked your confidence? Shame might be easier to identify since it’s typically linked to specific events that you regret but doubt can be a silent thief. Robbing you of possibilities and opportunities you didn’t have the confidence to go for.

Just like the settlers did when they claimed new territory, let’s put a flag in and start building a solid foundation of confidence as we eradicate shame and doubt! 

Let’s hear her Hack for Self-Doubt – Brene Brown

Dr. Jeremy Sutton gives us more on the Shame Resilience Theory: Advice From Brené Brown found at positivepsychology.com

Kendra Cherry sheds some more light on How to Forgive Yourself found at Very Well Mind

At the Triving Center of Psych, I found Understanding Impostor Syndrome: Breaking Free From Self-Doubt

Self-doubt often begins with a combination of internal and external factors. So here are some common sources – see if you’re holding on tightly to any of these:

  1. Early Experiences: Negative experiences or criticisms during childhood, such as overly critical parents or teachers, can plant seeds of self-doubt.
  2. Comparisons: Comparing oneself to others, especially in the age of social media, can lead to feelings of inadequacy and doubt about one’s abilities or worth.
  3. Perfectionism: Holding oneself to impossibly high standards and fearing failure can create a constant sense of not being good enough.
  4. Failures and Setbacks: Experiencing failures or setbacks can undermine confidence, making one question their competence and abilities.
  5. Negative Self-Talk: Internalizing negative thoughts and beliefs about oneself can perpetuate a cycle of doubt and low self-esteem.
  6. Unrealistic Expectations: Setting unrealistic goals or expectations can lead to a sense of failure when they are not met, fostering self-doubt.
  7. Lack of Support: Without a supportive network of friends, family, or mentors, individuals might struggle to maintain confidence in their abilities and decisions.
  8. Trauma or Stress: Traumatic experiences or chronic stress can erode self-confidence and lead to persistent self-doubt.

CHALLENGE: Embrace your journey of self-discovery, for in overcoming self-doubt, you unlock the door to limitless potential. Let every stumble be a stepping stone, and every moment of doubt a reminder of your inner strength. Rise above shame because true empowerment is in believing in yourself, fiercely and unapologetically

I Know YOU Can Do It!