SHOW NOTES:
On this show…we are recognizing that moods matter because our inner world dramatically shapes our outer experience. Have you ever waited on someone—or something—to change the energy in the room, cheer you up, or just make the day feel better? Maybe you’ve thought, “If they’d just smile,” or “If one good thing would happen, maybe I’d feel different.” We’ve all been there, hoping for a rescue from a funk we can’t quite shake. But what if we’ve been giving away way too much power? What if the secret to turning the day around isn’t out there somewhere, but already within us?
In this episode, we’re flipping the script. Instead of waiting for something to shift our mood, we’re exploring how our mood might actually be the thing shifting everything else. How we think, how we feel, how we choose to respond—it all ripples out and shapes what comes next. Could it be that we’re the thermostat, not the thermometer? That we’re not just reacting to the world but co-creating it in real time? Let’s dig into what this means, how to tell when our mindset is steering the ship (and when it’s stuck in a ditch), and how we can use this awareness to show up differently—even when the world around us stays the same.
Let’s kick things off with a truth that feels simple on the surface but hits a little deeper the more you sit with it: your mood shapes your experience more than your experience shapes your mood. We often think we’re reacting to what’s happening around us, but in reality, we’re often reacting to what’s happening within us—and that response colors the whole scene.
This idea leans into what psychologists call “emotional reasoning”—where we believe something is true based solely on how we feel. For example, if I feel overwhelmed, I assume the situation is chaotic. If I feel ignored, I assume people don’t care. But the kicker? The situation may not actually be that bad—it just feels that way because of the emotional lens I’m looking through. It’s like wearing sunglasses indoors and wondering why everything looks dim.
Our brains are wired to scan for threats, to make quick judgments, and to look for evidence that supports how we already feel. That’s called confirmation bias, and when we’re in a funk, our minds will happily hand us proof that the day is, in fact, garbage. But here’s the good news: once you realize this, you can interrupt the loop. You can change the glasses, so to speak. You can take back control of your mood and, with it, the way you engage with the world.
So rather than waiting for something outside of you to cheer you up or “fix” the day, what if you became your own emotional thermostat? Not to fake positivity or push feelings aside—but to gently shift how you interpret the moment, choose your response, and create a ripple effect from the inside out.
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CHALLENGE: Take ownership of your mood today. Recognize that by adjusting your internal narrative, you have the power to transform not only your own experience but also the world around you. Enjoy this new found freedom.
I Know YOU Can Do It!