SHOW NOTES:
On this show…we are identifying and plugging into your source. Your source of inspiration, support, motivation, accountability, and love. What makes you tick? It’s important to understand what lifts your up and gives you hope if you want to tap into a steady stream and just as important, what keeps you down if you want to make sure you avoid toxic negativity. So often we just coast through life, consuming and regurgitating, not questioning why, how, or IF – if it’s healthy or harmful. Remember, you have the power to control what you consume and what takes root. Getting too close to the fire, step back or at least put on some protective gear. Don’t just stand there mesmerized by the intoxicating flames.
When you think of JOY, what comes to your mind? Who comes to mind? Joy is defined as a feeling of great pleasure and happiness. If joy could be prescribed I would want a once a daily dose at least!
Donna Rockwell, Psy.D. digs into this question in her article: Desperately Seeking Happiness
Recently, a science of happiness has cropped up in the field of psychology. There are many studies on every aspect of happiness, the most acclaimed of all human pursuits. After much scientific discussion and review, researchers have come to define happiness as the ability to sustain an overall sense of well being over time. However, the capacity to generate and maintain well being while coping with daily challenges requires a certain amount of emotional flexibility.
Authentic happiness is never lost. Because it is burned into the very essence of our being, it remains a touchstone within us that can be accessed at any time, no matter what is going on around us. We need only conjure up images of happiness or remember an event or moment, and we are there, alive in the energy of our own awareness.
Think about your day today….when did you smile? When did you laugh? What happened and what didn’t? Fill in the blanks with a recreation of your favorite day and notice the small things that would bring you joy.
I love to sleep in – at least I think I do so to me, that brings me excitement. I rarely, in fact, sleep late but knowing I have a free Saturday morning that could lend itself to some extra Z’s is happiness. I love hot coffee that stays hot to the last drop – delightful. I love to laugh so whether it’s a silly joke or a well-thought-out comedy, I’m there. I’m a sucker for warm dessert – doesn’t matter what it is but if it’s bubbling with a little cold ice cream – whoa! I love to hear “Mmmmm that’s good” after I’ve slaved over a hot stove. Nothing makes me smile more than a compliment for a job well done. I find joy in being there for someone who needs a little extra encouragement – that feeling makes my heart sing.
What about motivation? What do you plug into to inspire you to want to do better, go farther, and try harder? You might be motivated by fear, guilt, peer pressure, or more of an internal clock pushing you to push yourself.
Brianna Steinhilber wrote about 3 times of motivation in her article for Better by Today.
- Extrinsic
Doing an activity to attain or avoid a separate outcome - Intrinsic
An internal drive for success or sense of purpose - Family
Motivated by the desire to provide for your loved ones
What about fear as a motivator? So how can you let go of fear, unplug, and re-route your lines to joy?
As humans, we are hardwired to seek pleasure and to avoid pain. According to Freud, as children, this desire is the driving principle behind all choices and is about immediate gratification.
But as we enter adulthood, we learn to delay gratification, which is known as the reality principle. As part of this, one is able to rationalize the desire for long term pleasure and so in the short term is able to endure the pain of one type or another.
The problem with fear as a motivator is, it is limited in its ability to create motivation over the long term. It can be a helpful spark for some people, but if this is all they’ve got, it’s highly likely to lead to failure.
Does it all come back around to perception? So much of life does. How you see things directly affects how you react. What you hear and believe dictates how you respond. We should be held accountable but responsible for us and everyone around us? I don’t think so!
For me, I had to start listening to myself. For too long I had modeled and shaped my life based on the thoughts and opinions of others. What to say, what to do, who to be, and how to feel. I couldn’t even hear myself if I was even trying to assert my own ideas at all. I had to take a step back and sit with my own thoughts and feelings to be able to recognize them as my own. Once I was able to tap in and listen to myself I started gaining confidence and trusting what I heard. I’m looking out for me now and that’s ok, it’s not selfish or self-centered it’s responsible.
Once I was attuned to myself, I started looking for sources of inspiration that were truly inspiring – out for my greater good and brought joy into my life. When I let go of fear, my obsession to be responsible for everyone around me, and my need to please – I found so much extra time and energy that I could channel into whatever source served me.
- I need time by myself, time with God, and time with positive people who want also want to plug into the positive – so I plug into my connections
- I need to encourage and serve in a healthy and constructive way. – so I plug into volunteering
- I need to create, design, and impact my surroundings with my art – so I plug into creativity
- I need to explore and grow – books, languages, new ideas, hobbies – so I plug into education
Inspiredgoodvibes.com helps us with 10 ways to stay connected to good energy every day.
- HAVE A SPIRITUAL PRACTICE
- CONNECT TO YOUR BODY
- MONITOR YOUR THOUGHTS
- TRUST
- Be PRESENT
- LIVE IN LOVE (not fear, doubt, and worry.)
- ALLOW – FOLLOW THE ENERGY
- HONOR YOURSELF AND YOUR CHOICES
- BE GRATEFUL
- GIVE
CHALLENGE: evaluate your current source of energy and unplug when you feel depleted. You have the power to choose a more positive source of inspiration – plugin and share your joyful current with others.
I Know YOU Can Do It!